One of you may be checking a phone, replaying a sentence, or trying to understand what is true.
The other may be searching for words, afraid that almost anything they say could make this worse.
You may feel shocked, disoriented, furious, ashamed, strangely calm, or unable to think beyond tonight.
You do not have to decide the future of the relationship today.
I help individuals and couples slow things down, understand what needs attention now, and begin working through what comes next with honesty and care.
View available first-session times through Jeni’s secure client portal.
Specialized therapy for infidelity, betrayal trauma, hidden behavior, accountability, relationship repair, and the difficult space between discovery and a thoughtful decision.
- Have just found out
- Be the person whose secret came to light
- Want help even though their partner is not ready
- Want to understand why they made these choices
- Be facing a repeated discovery
- Be unsure whether individual or couples therapy is the right place to begin
These are different situations. They need different conversations.
Wanting to save the relationship. Wanting to help your partner. Wanting to understand your choices. Wanting to stop repeating the pattern. Accountability without humiliation.
You do not need to choose the correct kind of therapy before scheduling.
Scheduling a first session does not require you to decide the future of the relationship.
What needs attention tonight, what can wait, how to care for the body, protect children, recognize danger, and avoid making an already painful situation more chaotic.
A practical plan for the first three days: safety, health, outside contact, temporary boundaries, children, work, money, emerging information, and what still does not need to be decided.
Reading may help you feel less lost. It may not be enough.
A guide cannot take in everything happening in your situation, weigh conflicting information, or help you make decisions that depend on the full context.
After betrayal, couples can become opposing sides.
One person is trying to establish what is true. The other may be explaining, defending, minimizing, withholding, or collapsing into shame.
“I think in teams.”
Therapy does not require you to pretend both people are equally responsible for the betrayal.
Therapy may help with:
- Honest conversation
- Accountability
- Relationship repair
- Decision-making
- Separation or co-parenting when needed
I work with:
- The person who was betrayed
- The person who broke trust
- Couples who want to repair
- Couples who are uncertain
- Individuals whose partner will not participate
“I am not here to shame or judge you. I am curious about you.”
Curiosity does not mean minimizing impact or assigning equal responsibility.
You do not need:
- A perfect timeline
- Every answer
- Agreement about what happened
- A decision to stay or leave
- Certainty about individual versus couples therapy
Jeni Woodfin, LMFT is a specialist working with individuals and couples after affairs, disclosure or discovery, repeated deception, hidden sexual or financial behavior, and serious breaches of trust.
Individual therapy: 50 minutes · $275
Couples therapy: 50 minutes · $300
- Private pay
- Out-of-network
- Monthly superbills
- In-person in Los Gatos
- Secure video for clients located in California
- 48-hour cancellation policy
You do not have to know how this ends before you begin.
The first step is not automatically deciding whether to stay, leave, forgive, separate, or rebuild.
The first step is understanding what happened, what needs attention now, and what the next useful step may be.